Have you ever tried to heal someone else’s pain?
To try and fix their problems?
How does it feel? Why are you motivated to try and do this?
Is it actually as a way of you healing yourself?
Do you want to fix them so your own heart doesn’t hurt so much?
Is it their pain, or is it your own that you are really trying to heal?
Can you be with your own pain? Your own sensations? Your own well-being or lack of?
Do you ever hear yourself saying “if I they can just …” “If/when they do …”
Can you come home to what you need right now?
What is this (their apparent feelings and experience)… What is this bringing up for me?
How do I feel when I think about them and their situation?
Can I just sit with that? Can I allow my body to talk to me, to tell me what’s going on? What my body’s message is for me?
There is no going home from the outside.
There is no going home from other’s feelings, emotions and experiences.
This can be a tool, a useful way of, a mirror to access our own pain however. A tool, an opportunity to see and feel and hear how things are for us.
Can you dare to do this? To look inside?
I am not saying to ignore the other. Only that, when you are alone, and you do have a moment, maybe, just maybe have a look at what is happening for you.
There may be an opportunity for some growth, some healing, some more space for love and peace, wellbeing for you too.
This, if you actually do it, has the great potential to then really help the other too.
The clarity and peace you both can feel/experience afterwards, is amazingly healing.
And that’s what you want, right?
